Five sighted sites teens flock to instead of Facebook

Where America’s youth go online to avoid Mom and Dad

marketwatch.com 

If your kids aren’t on Facebook, where are they? Try 

• Snapchat. (This app’s files self-destruct. The service is designed for savvy teenagers who don’t want to leave an Internet footprint)  www.snapchat.com

Twenty-six percent of 18- to 29-year-olds with cellphones use Snapchat, according to Pew Research Center, compared with 5% of 30- to 49-year-olds and 3% of 50- to 64-year-olds. Parents might want to monitor and check in on their kids’ social media activity from time to time, says Kelli Krafsky, coauthor of the book “Facebook and Your Marriage,” but “Snapchat is impossible to check.” —By Quentin Fottrell ((source)

• Pheed (mobile app allows users to create and share videos) www.pheed.com
• PicsArt www.picsart.com
• Tumblr www.tumblr.com
• Vine (Twitter launched Vine — a video-sharing app) www.vine.co

On the same shelf: 

• On Facebook, a growing teenage wasteland CNN 
• Video - 3 Sites Teens Flock to Instead of Facebook - WSJ.com  

WEB 2.0 Experience: Wherein breaking up is hard to do

Thinking of making a comparative study of the following titles:


On the same shelf:

Breaking Up Is Hard to Do. By AZADEH ENSHA | New York Times -- includes FACEBOOK, GOOGLE PLUS, AMAZON, LINKEDIN, MYSPACE, TWITTER

 The Anxiety of the Unanswered E-Mail New York Times

Reading now: The Generation X Librarian

The Generation X Librarian: Essays on Leadership, Technology, Pop Culture, Social Responsibility and Professional Identity, by Martin K. Wallace, Rebecca Tolley-Stokes and Erik Sean Estep, McFarland, 2011.



Extract:

Generation X includes those individuals born roughly between the years 1961 and 1981. This generation has faced unique advances in technology, environmental degradation, and widening economic injustice, all of which affect libraries and librarians. This collection of critical essays showcases the unique qualities and challenges that face Generation X librarians. Topics covered include management and leadership, rapidly changing technology, social attitudes and stereotypes within popular culture, and how Generation X librarians have responded to or developed upon those themes. This book fills many of the gaps present in the professional literature on librarianship and our younger generations.

What to reviewers say:
This is a fine collection that represents a good diversity of perspectives on Generation X in the library. It's a good read, no matter what your age, and I highly recommend it. -- By Kerol Harrod

Revisiting the gap between intention, action and the results in relationships

"Action is based on Intention." Prophet Muhammad (PBUH), Hadith An-Nawawi, Number 1

Herein questions are many, including:
One Wants To Say ‘Love’ When in actually Means ‘Sex’? Or
One simply means to say I have a friend who is not a friend-indeed!!!
Is feminism, in the West (e.g., the US), same-as, feminism in the east (e.g., India)?
Socio-psychologically speaking, is dating considered the same, in the East (India for instance) as against the West (America for instance)?

In short, is it all about intentions, actions and the resultants? Are these role models imported, more so, from Bollywood (a.k.a. West) and Hollywood (a.k.a. East), just to compare and see the meeting or diverting trends!!! Or is it an extended social nexus, which is more cultural, spiritual and historical? What do you say???

Reading now:

'A Man. A Woman. Just Friends?' by William Deresiewicz, NYTimes.com

I cannot think of another area of our lives in which there is so great a gap between what we do and what our culture says we do. But may be things are beginning to change. Younger people, having grown up with the gay-rights movement and in many cases gone to colleges with co-ed dormitories, are open to a wider range of emotional possibility.

Friendship between the sexes may no longer be a political issue, but it is an issue of liberation: the freedom to love whom you want, in the way that you want. Maybe it’s time that we all took it out of the closet. Continue reading

Love and sex in India: Why some Indian men can't take a hint, Courting or harassment: What happens when Western women mix with the locals? by Hanna Ingber, GlobalPost

Australian journalist Virginia Moncrieff, who has worked across Asia, Africa and the Middle East, remembers being in India and having a long chat with a university student. She gave him her phone number, and he proceeded to call and text countless times a day.

“I still can't figure out why, when I was so obviously displeased and bothered by the endless, endless calls that my new ‘friend’ just could not, and would not, stop contacting me,” she wrote in an email.

According to cross-culture and gender specialists, this behavior in "new India" is a result of shifting social norms, a low level of interaction between opposite sexes, influences of pop culture and differing interpretations of power dynamics between men and women.

As Mumbai changes and modernizes, there is confusion over what type of behavior is acceptable in personal as well as work environments, says Jerry Pinto, author of "Surviving Women," a manual of gender politics in India. Continue reading

Real life couples don't sizzle onscreen ...
In more than a few instances in the past, Bollywood stars who have become increasingly public about their love life have disheartened viewers (and directors) with their lack of comfort and uneasiness when it comes to portraying love scenes onscreen...

Though Hindi films are no longer shy of intimacy, many Bollywood actors, especially those who are real-life couples, continue to look uncomfortable with such scenes. continue reading

On the same shelf:

Love in the Time of Globalization: Indian and American National Identity in Romance Cinema

Modesty in a Culture of Immodesty: Does it have a place?

Concealing to Reveal: Modesty in Pope John Paul II’s Theology of the Body

Physical, Emotional & Verbal Immodesty | The Rock of Roseville

She’s my girl ‘friend’ not my ‘girlfriend’

What is Infidelity? By Nisha JamVwal

Closing the Gap Between Intention and Action

Feminism in India - Indian Feminism and Sexuality - Bride Burning ...

Badass Muslim Girl - Bollywood used to be all about the modesty

SELF-ATTENTION—SHAME—SHYNESS—MODESTY

American Indian leader objects to vulgarity in Bollywood | The Global Indian®

Love & Responsibility in Sydney: March 2012

Do You Want To Say ‘Love’ When You Mean ‘Sex’?

The Case Against – The Boyfriend-Girlfriend Culture

The Big Question: Are women to blame for rape? - Yahoo! News India

BOLLYWOOD HEROINES - Mix Articles/pix - Asian Outlook

Ellie’s advice: Wife is overreacting to husband’s trips to strip clubs

Modesty of dress and Indian culture « kracktivist

He's a Stud, She's a Slut, and 49 Other Double Standards Every Woman Should Know, by Jessica Valenti

Veil: Modesty, Privacy and Resistance (Dress, Body, Culture), Fadwa El Guindi

Sexuality, Obscenity, And Community: Women, Muslims, and the Hindu Public in Colonial India, by Charu Gupta

Wanted Cultured Ladies Only!: Female Stardom and Cinema in India, 1930s-1950s, by Neepa Majumdar

Queering India: Same-Sex Love and Eroticism in Indian Culture and Society by Ruth Vanita

Films and Feminism: Essays in Indian Cinema, by Jasbir Jain

Marrying Anita: A Quest for Love in the New India, by Anita Jain

Surviving Women: a manual of gender politics in India, by Jerry Pinto

Impact of Bollywood on society @ much ado abt nothing

Impact of Bollywood on society @ Sitagita.com

The Impact of Bollywood: An Overview, Darshana A, Yahoo! Contributor Network

Job searching with social media for dummies - Reading now

AT the outset it is a good resource for any job searcher, who can use his/her social networking skills from branding and communicating a message online, to all the basics of dealing with Twitter, Facebook and other sites. In short one can gain newer job opportunities!!!

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Shows you how to easily harness social media sites
Advice on how to brand yourself online
Covers all of the latest and most popular social media sites: Google, Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn, and more

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By Joshua Waldman (ISBN: 9780470930724), Wiley, John & Sons, 2011.
Table of Contents

Part I: Preparing for Your Job Search;

Chapter 1: The Lowdown on Social Media for Job Hunters; Chapter 2: Setting Yourself Up for a Successful Job Search; Chapter 3: Reviewing the Basics of Online Networking

Part II: Marketing Yourself with a Personal Brand;

Chapter 4: Personal Branding; Chapter 5: Crafting Keywords, Value Statements; Chapter 6: Communicating Your Expertise Online by Blogging; Chapter 7: I've Been Googled! Managing Your Online  Reputation

Part III: Crafting Web Résumés with LinkedIn, Video;

Chapter 8: Updating Your Résumé for an Online Audience; Chapter 9: Using LinkedIn to Put Your Best Profi le Forward; Chapter 10: Producing a Compelling Video Résumé;
Chapter 11: Taking Advantage of Other Online Résumé Options;

Part IV: Using Twitter, Facebook, and Other Sites to Find a Position;

Chapter 12: Uncovering the Hidden Job Market with Twitter; Chapter 13: Using Facebook as a Job Hunter; Chapter 14: Getting Familiar with Lesser-Known Sites for Job Hunters;

Part V: Executing Your Proactive Social Media Job Hunt Strategies;

Chapter 15: Tracking Down Opportunities, Companies, and People to Target; Chapter 16: It's About What I Can Do for You: Discovering a Company's Needs; Chapter 17: Embracing the Informational Interview for an Insider Advantage; Chapter 18: Engaging with Hiring Managers through Social Media;

Part VI: The Part of Tens;

Chapter 19: Ten Ways the Job Search Has Evolved in the 21st Century; Chapter 20: (Almost) Ten Ways to Stay Up-to-Date with Social Media Changes; Chapter 21: Ten Common Mistakes People Make When Using Social Media Sites

My advice to married women out there: Suck it up

Leah McLaren, The Globe and Mail, Friday, Feb. 12, 2010

Extract:
"To them, I offer this singular piece of advice: Suck it up. Be glad, if you're married, that you have a husband. Provided he's not a violent, gambling drunkard who just got off with your best friend, I'll bet that he's just fine. In any case, you made your bed, so lie in it. Better yet, roll over and make love to it. You may not think you're in the mood, but, trust me, you'll be happier if you do. ... I have come to these conclusions, among others, after speaking with American writer Lori Gottlieb, the author of Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough

After having a baby on her own with donor sperm in her late 30s, Gottlieb re-entered the dating market in her early 40s only to find that all the good guys had already been snapped up. Her book, which is a meditation on choice, disappointment and the importance of managing your expectations in the modern dating market, also chronicles Gottlieb's profound regret at having been too picky and hypercritical in her single youth. “It seems great to have all these choices,” she told me in a recent phone interview, “but the question is, can you pick wisely?”

Interestingly, Gottlieb points to cultures that favour arranged marriages as a guide on how to pick a mate based on practical criteria that will sustain marriage and children – a proposition she describes as not unlike “running a small, tedious, non-profit business” – rather than the modern notion that marriage should be based on everlasting, bodice-ripping passion.

“People expect their marriage is always going to be this thrilling, exciting thing, but that's not real life. I think that the great benefit of marriage is the safety and commitment and having a teammate and a home, just the love and the warmth. It's not that exciting, but it's what people crave at their deepest level.”

Leave it to a hard-up single mother to appreciate what so many unhappily married women cannot. Gottlieb's point about arranged marriages brought to mind another interesting observation, this one found in Elizabeth Gilbert's new book, Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace With Marriage.

In her follow-up to the mega-bestseller Eat, Pray, Love, divorcee Gilbert is sentenced to marry her exiled Brazilian boyfriend for immigration purposes. As they await their impending nuptials, she contemplates the history and cultural purpose of marriage from a point of view that is diametrically opposed to Gottlieb's – i.e., she doesn't want children and has no interest in tedious non-profit work.
Perhaps the most interesting observation in the book is that, historically speaking, a successful marriage has nothing to do with love. In the course of her research, Gilbert notices that, across cultures and history, the divorce rate spikes as soon as people start choosing their spouses for themselves. “By unnerving definition,” she writes, “anything that the heart has chosen for its own mysterious reason, it can always unchoose.” ... continue reading